Most of the time, though, that is not really the truth of the unhappiness. It is not one big thing; it is a bunch of little things. Well, it might even be a bunch of big things, and every once in a while it really is one big thing, but it is almost never undefinable; and definition is the first step toward solution.
If we really think about it, most of us can figure out what is making us unhappy, and that is what you might find helpful. When I get unhappy about something, I often try to think it through and really understand the cause or causes -- I occasionally even write it down on a sheet of paper.
What I have found is that really thinking it through makes me feel so much more in control. Once I have identified the issues, then I can go down the list and decide which are not really so important and which must be dealt with. Then, if necessary, I can create a plan and do something to fix my situation, rather than just wallow in it. Just going through this process often puts me in a remarkably better state of mind. It changes my momentum away from unhappiness and toward constructive activity and thought.
The more I can take action to solve unhappiness, the less power it has over me.
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